Have you ever found yourself saying things like "Oh, that will never happen." or "Oh, that will never work out."?
Some people think that if they come up with the worst case scenario they will prepare themselves for when things don't work out. It is a common defense strategy. The problem is that it doesn't really work and makes us feel terrible.
If you think about it when we live as though the worst is the most likely thing to happen we suffer from the worry of it all. Then if we turn out to be right we get to suffer again! Yikes! Who wants to suffer twice?
What if we were to believe...or at least add to our thoughts what the BEST case scenario might be as well? For example, let's say I have something big coming up (a test? a job interview? a life change of some sort?) and in addition to my "What if this goes wrong?" I add "Hey, but what if this goes RIGHT?" "What would I do if this actually worked out?"
In the absence of being able to know for sure how a situation will turn out become a "possibilitarian." You are not saying you know for sure how it will go, but what are ALL the possibilities - not just the negative ones? I think you will find you will feel a lot better about life when you practice this simple technique. What are your possibilities?
